Learn to make love to the parts of yourself you’ve been taught are unlovable, alchemize emotional pain into unfuckwithable power, and experience how pleasure + turn-on can coexist with grief.

Free community class:

SENSUAL SELF-LOVE RITUAL FOR GRIEF, HEARTBREAK, AND LIFE TRANSITIONS

A free masterclass to be tenderly guided through one of my all-time favorite rituals, "The Resurrection Ritual", to:

• Pour Divine Love into every cell of your body
• Awaken your eroticism + turn-on in the face of devastation, turmoil, grief, and/or life's life-ing
• Release some of the heaviness in your heart ❤️‍🩹
• Learn how to make love to your pain and emotions, and alchemize them into power and vibrant aliveness
• Hold yourself through literally anything you might be going through
• Transform your hands into those of the world’s #1 most powerful healer

During the darkest depression of my life just five years ago, I sought refuge in a Buddhist monastery for a silent meditation retreat.

Having just navigated the unexpected implosion and loss of my entire reality as I knew it, I walked up to those big wooden doors as a hollowed-out version of myself… wounded, stripped raw, lost, devastated, ashamed, cracked open.

After hours of sitting on the cushion each day and meeting my gnarliest demons face-to-face, I joined the other seekers for our evening Dhamma lecture with the elder Buddhist nun who was leading the retreat.

Although we couldn’t speak, the retreat participants were invited to each write down one question on a small slip of paper for the nun to answer after her nightly discourses.

I eagerly scribbled, “How can I soothe the pain of my grief? How can one navigate such intense darkness?”

When she chose my question from the wooden box and read it aloud to the room one evening, my heartbeat sped up as I hung onto her every word… drinking in her insights like a parched desert traveler.

She closed her eyes and sat in silence for a long moment, the air pregnant with wonder, empathy, and a shared, felt familiarity with this inescapable facet of the human experience.

Her deep, honey-like voice slowly began,

“Grief is a very unique emotion. Its process is unpredictable, and quite different for every person.”

“I invite you to view grief like the waves and tides of the ocean. At first, the waves will come out of nowhere - huge, strong, disorienting. You won’t even see them coming before they knock you down. You may feel like you’re flailing, drowning, and gasping for air. Desperate to find which way is up.”

“After time, the waves get smaller, less aggressive. They may still knock you over, but you’ll see them coming. They’ll become more known, more familiar. You’ll trust your strength to survive it.”

“Eventually, the waves will come down to your chin, then down to your shoulders, your waist, your hips, your knees, and finally, down to your ankles. They may even rise higher again at times.”

“Your true work is to accept that these waves will likely never go away. Not fully. Your work is to stop resisting the waves and learn to accept them. To witness them, build a relationship with them, cultivate compassion, and be with reality as it is.”

Five years later and I am still deeply moved by these words.

They served as a gentle, yet powerful flickering light of hope and clarity in what was previously a chapter of the most suffocating despair I’d ever known.

And… I’d like to add a few things I've learned since then ;)

As long as we’re in human bodies, grief is forever.

Emotions are forever. Resistance is forever. Messiness and cringe and confusion and contraction and discomfort and change are forever (which also means: so is the opposite side of the spectrum!).

So rather than taking the route of…

1. Pathologizing, shaming, and comparing ourselves,
2. Making our humanity “wrong,”
3. Thinking we need to be fixed and saved,
4. Convincing ourselves that our pain makes us less worthy, desirable, or lovable,
5. Creating stories, meanings, and expectations of what grief and heartbreak “should” look and feel like,
6. Dissociating from our bodies, emotions, and humanness and only ever being the floating, objective “witness,”

Instead, what I’ve found to be the most effective, expansive, nourishing, and regenerative way to navigate grief, loss, heartbreak, and big life transitions is to:

1. Establish a felt sense of safety in the body,
2. Lean allllllll the way INTO our sensations, feelings, and experiences,
3. Give them a voice and let them be felt, moved, and expressed without inhibition,
4. Witness them, and ourselves, with radical love, compassion, and curiosity,
5. {**the essential, yet often overlooked or unknown step**} Cultivate Eros and turn-on to alchemize these emotions into fuel, power, momentum, creativity, pleasure, and aliveness.

After being a tender-hearted, sensitive ass human for my entire life who has now extensively trained in Somatic Sexology, Sexual Dearmoring, Body-Based Healing for Trauma Resolution, Sacred Intimacy and Neo Tantra, and Integrative Sex, Love, and Relationship Coaching…

One could say I’ve become somewhat of a master at making love to the full-spectrum human experience.

Whether you’re currently figuring out how the fuck to put yourself back together after falling apart, riding the waves of a big life transition, stepping through the threshold of The Great Unknown, tending to an aching heart, or simply wanting more tools in your handy “When Life Gets Real” toolbox…

I am deeply honored and excited AF to invite you to my upcoming free virtual class:

SENSUAL SELF-LOVE RITUAL FOR GRIEF, HEARTBREAK, AND LIFE TRANSITIONS

You’ll be safely, tenderly, and lovingly guided through one of my all-time favorite rituals to:

• Hold yourself with the utmost tenderness, grace, and warmth
• Allow unprocessed feelings to be expressed, moved, and dignified
• Activate the alchemical power of your erotic turn-on
• Channel Divine Love through your own hands
• Relieve some of the heaviness in your heart

Come learn to make sweet, passionate, tender love to the parts of yourself that you’ve been taught are unlovable, while experiencing how pleasure and turn-on can coexist with grief and discomfort.